Does anyone know how to get that textured blurry look all the time when taking photos.I know I have to have a wide apature but I don't get it all the time

Textured blurry could mean several different things. Try putting a used dryer anti-static sheet over your lens, then post process to taste. No, really.

Chris

I guess u mean blurring background?

you can achieve blurry background either by setting low f number, shoot AV aperture priority and set ur f number to f.2,8 or lower (if ur lens allows of course). Another way is to zoom in as much as ur lens allows. u will get more blur shooting at 80mm with f/4 then at 17mm with f/4, understand?

fast lens, zoom in all the way is the answer. if this isn't what ur looking for please specify the question. here u go little article explaining DOF - depth of field